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Fate Worse than Death
Written
and moderated by Adrienne Gusoff
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Dear Babe:
I am a divorced man in my 40's. My ex-wife was, to put it kindly,
a psychotic bitch who made my life a living hell. She had various
forms of mental illness including manic-depression and obsessive-compulsive
disorder which she hid well until we were already married. The entire
relationship lasted three years, after which she stalked me and tried
her best to interfere in my single life. I am now happily married
to someone else and that part of my life is behind me. Now that I
have nothing to do with her anymore, I have no animosity towards her.
I'm a forgive-and-forget kind of guy. Here's the situation: I heard
through a mutual acquaintance that she is getting married again to
a man she's known only a few months. I don't know this man at all,
but I feel a nearly overwhelming urge to call him and beg him to at
least wait until he knows her better before tying the knot. I know
it's none of my business, but knowing her as I do, and knowing how
good she is at lying and hiding her craziness during courtship, I
feel this poor sucker ought to be warned at least. My wife tells me
to mind my own business, but the thought that I can save another man
the horrors of what I went through makes me want to at least send
him a letter. What do you think?
Ex-caped with My Life
Dear Ex:
Wouldn't it be great if human beings came with warning labels? "Caution:
Vindictive When Angry" or "Warning: Prone to Homicidal Attacks" or
"Will Spend All Your Money and Leave You Broke." Or better yet, what
if we were required to provide reference letters from past lovers?
While your ex might indeed have been your worst nightmare, she might
be this new guy's dream babe. You never know what attracts people
to each other, and one man's poison is another's gourmet meal. Who
knows, they might live happily ever after together.
Not only isn't it your responsibility to warn this "poor sucker,"
but even if you did, he probably wouldn't listen. Would you have listened
to a stranger's warnings before you married her? I'm betting not.
A man-to-man chat with the fiancé might leave you with a fat lip.
A written letter might end up as evidence in a libel law suit initiated
by Ms. Wacko. I say, Caveat Emptor. Let the shnook learn from his
own mistakes, just as you did. And when it's over, maybe you fellas
can start a club of your own.
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