| What
Women Want
Written
and moderated by Adrienne Gusoff
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Dear
Readers: Every week my mailbox is filled with emails asking such significant
questions as "How do I get this girl I like to go to bed with me?"
or "I like this woman. How can I get her to like me?" or "Why won't
women go out with me?" That's it. No details. No qualifying sentences.
Nuttin'. Nada. Zip.
Listen up! I am NOT a mind reader! I am an advice-giver, and in order
to give advice, I need to have an honest assessment of the situation.
How the heck should I know why you can't get to first base if you
don't tell me more about your situation? Maybe you look like Quasi
Modo and have the manners of Attila the Hun. Perhaps you're a tedious
bore who can suck the fun out of a room just by walking in. Maybe
you fart like a rhino and have the personal grooming habits of a bum.
Maybe you're fixating on women who are way out of your league, or
perhaps you're so shy and insecure that you're afraid to ask strangers
for the time of day.
I've said it before and I'll say it again: There is no magic answer
to your dating woes. There isn't one miraculous pick up line that
works on every woman. There isn't the same, single solution to every
problem (though wouldn't life be simple if there were?).
I know you guys don't want to hear this, but I'd be doing you a serious
disservice if I didn't drum this into your heads every chance I get:
Relationships, even purely sexual ones, take work and self-knowledge
to succeed. Neither women, nor life in general, owes you any special
consideration. You've got to make your own luck. If you're content
to be a loser your entire life, just keep making the same mistakes
over and over. If you want happiness, learn to learn from your mistakes,
and stop looking for easy answers.
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